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How To Get Your Children To Listen

How To Get Your Children To Listen

Is there a lot of stress and strain in your life because your children just dont listen?

Do you spend the majority of your waking moments chasing after your children because they are not listening to you, and you feel like you have to micro-manage?

Do you have no energy because all your energy is spent being frustrated and blocked by your childrens apparent inability to follow orders?

Well, the good news is you may be able to get back your time and energy and a balanced family life simply by understanding what the communication block is between you and your children.

Of course, every child is unique. Some children need their freedom more than others. Some children enjoy structure, and some do not. But what they all do have is one, two, three or four communication modalities or communication modes in common.

What is a communication modality or mode?

As Dr. Robby, Director of the LMC Relationship Centre, Developer of the Better Parents, Better Kids Program, and co-author of our e-book, Better Parents, Better Kids, explains:

“Communication is the result you get. Different people are on different channels. We learn, we express love and communicate through different modes or combinations of modes. It is important to know who you are playing with and what channel they are playing on, or else your communication will not be very effective. We basically all want to get what we want. If you cannot get your message through of what your needs, wants, dreams, goals and visions are, you will be very frustrated and stressed. So an understanding of communication modes is a basic skill for relationship success, whether that is a relationship with a partner, your children, friends, family or coworkers.”

The following is a very basic definition of the communication modes. You can be primarily one mode or a mixture of up to all four.

Visual people communicate by seeing and doing. They like activities and they like gifts. They notice people, places and things with just the slightest glance. They feel and share love by doing things with or for other people. They take things at face value and do not look deeper into things. They learn by seeing and doing.

Auditory people communicate through talking. They have the natural gift of the gab, are designed to be able to talk for long periods of time. They enjoy talking and listening to other people talk. They feel loved when they are talked to, and like to hear the words “I love you.” They learn by hearing.

Digital people communicate through connection and understanding. They find the deeper meaning in everything they think, see and do. Understanding is very important to them. They feel loved when they share connections with others and are understood. They learn by understanding.

Kinesthetic people communicate through their bodies. They move, feel and express through their bodies. Kinesthetics love to touch, feel, do physical activities and hug. They feel loved when they are touched. They learn through touch and through experience.

Being A Single Parent Can Be A Big Undertaking

Being A Single Parent Can Be A Big Undertaking

To be on your own in the journey that is taking proper care of a youngster is one of the hardest responsibilities we can get. Normally, you see a couple of individuals sharing the burden of child care which is already a challenge for many adults. Having to struggle through all the issues of being a father or mother alone, without any one to share the burden with, means that you take on all of the responsibilities. The household unit is one that is normally governed by a father figure, the strict disciplinarian, along with the mother figure, the loving, warm arms that keep up the family. Being a single parent is often a tasking enterprise due to the big difference in these two parental roles. A mother won’t be able to completely comprehend the role of a father in a child’s life and therefore won’t be able to provide everything that a child needs and vice versa.

For any kid to develop, it’s a widespread simple fact that she or he will need to have two very different adults to guide his or her growth. It doesn’t suggest that single mothers and fathers can’t be effective, but that they will have to work overtime to fill the many demands. Can a solitary influence be enough for a child’s growth? There is no one to offer your child the opposite side of the story. This can slow down his development. So know all the shoes that must be filled. The missing parental figure should be substituted with the proper mix of influences for the kid to develop up right.

The actual fact that you will need to do every little thing on your own in a 24 hour day that you wish can be stretched to 48 hours is the next wall to climb. Hard cash is a very important resource that you’ll have to provide your household all by your lonesome. A job and family is tough enough when you have somebody to lean on. But by yourself, the task becomes a study in the finer points of time management and priority setting. The balance between successfully providing for a kid financially and making sure that you connect with him or her as much as you possibly can and be the guiding force in your child’s life can be a tight rope walk. Be sure that you get all of the help you are able to by checking out all the single mother or father grants available to you. Get as much aid as you can, you need it.

How To Develop Children’s Patience

How To Develop Children’s Patience

Statistics show that criminals often caused by impatience. Experts suggest that parents should develop childrens patience as early as possible.

If the children are not guided properly, they will take their aftermath when they grow up. For example, the children are easily controlled by their mood and once met with problems they can not stand them. It is difficult for them to find a solution calmly. They cannot take frustrations and their life is badly influenced.

The experts point out that the parents should first know their childrens characteristics and then the parents should set themselves up as models to their children. If the parents have little patience, it is no doubts the children have little patience. So the parents should pay attention to their behavior in life and make themselves good model to their children.

One of the methods to train childrens patience is to make them wait. There is a girl named Mary, and Mary always wants the thing in no time such as watching animations, having a cake just bought, or another story. Marys mother always tells her that she can get all of them if she can wait. During the waiting time she will sing a little song to her or let het count from 1 to 10. Then Mary can wait at least a little while, and understand that waiting time is nothing but a little while.

Tips: Parents can give the children some praise after they wait. For example, when the mother is making a phone call, she may tell the kid to stay quiet for 1 minute. If the kid waits 1 minute quietly, the mother can give her a praise saying: You are so patient and you can play by yourself when mom is making the phone call. But if the kid doesnt wait for 1 minute, the mother can choose not to say a word to the kid for at least 1 minute, and explain to him or her why.

Sometimes parents can change the childrens attention by giving them a new thing they have never met before. For example when you are talking with your friends, you can give your kid a new toy. When the kid finally figures out what it is, you have already ended the conversation between you and your friend.

Besides, you can teach the kids to learn to spend time by their own. When they are waiting, you can let them draw a picture or do some reading, anything they are interested in.

Tennis Psychology And Tennis Parents Do You Expect Miracles

Tennis Psychology And Tennis Parents Do You Expect Miracles

Do you expect your tennis kid to always perform well or win? Do you have a hard time focusing on what your kids do well on the court instead of focusing on mistakes? I receive many questions from sports parents about their young athletes performance. One question parents ask me: Am I too hard on my young athlete? Yes, most parents are.

Just today, I received an email from a sports parent about his child. He stated, I am sometimes hard on my son and tend to see his weaknesses more then his positive qualities! As a tennis parent myself, I have to agree. I find myself focusing more on the mistakes my child makes in matches instead of the wonderful shots she makes.

I think one reason many tennis parents focus on mistakes and weaknesses is that they know what their kids are capable of in practice and matches. For example, one week your child might play flawlessly winning every match in the tournament. Naturally, our expectations as parents shoot up: My child should be able to perform like this all the time!

I call this the peak performance dilemma. Some athletes judge every performance based on their best performance! They think, If I can play great one time, I should do it all the time. I think tennis parents adopt this same attitude. When our kids dont perform up to their potential, its easier to focus on the mistakes and what they are doing wrong (compared to their best performances).

Whats the solution to this dilemma? First, you want to be careful not to compare every match your athlete plays to his best match. Second, you have force yourself to focus on what your child is doing well in each match, especially after the match on the car ride home. Dont pick apart every mistake your young athlete made in the last match. I suggest to parents that you compliment your player for one or two things she might have done well in the match, before saying anything else.

When you think your child under-performed during a match, giving complements is very hard to do (trust me I know this personally). Try to focus on your players positive qualities. Your kids know what mistakes they made and dont want to be reminded after the match!

Parisian Parents Seek Solace In The Teddy Bear Trust

Parisian Parents Seek Solace In The Teddy Bear Trust

Parisian parents welcome the Teddy Bear Trust for addressing childrens anxieties when being admitted to the hospital.

The Teddy Bear Trust will seek to be able to hand out a free teddy bear to every child whos admitted to a hospital in Paris. The teddy bear will bring comfort to the child, while doctors and nurses can also use the teddy bear as a proxy when explaining the illness and medical procedures to the child. Also, the teddy bear can act as a substitute parent or comrade when the parents arent able to be at the hospital, or when it is occasionally too hard to be there to comfort a perhaps seriously ill child.

Psychologists have applauded mr. Bjorn Stiedl, Danish repeat entrepreneur and businessman, for having come up with the Teddy Bear Trust (Foundation Ours en Peluche). After the idea was first aired a couple of months ago, Parisian parents have heard rumours of the Teddy Bear Trust, and are beginning to ask healthcare workers if they know anything about it, and if there is a teddy bear for their child.

Mr. Stiedl comments that, this clearly shows the need for a project such as this. For a child, being hospitalized is not only about getting well but about getting through the entire experience unscathed. And trust me, a one-month hospitalization for a five-year-old is virtually a life-long experience. Having a teddy bear to share the experience with may very well be more efficient than God knows how many pain-killers, Mr. Stiedl concludes.

Patrick, father to a 4-year-old daughter who has been in the hospital for three weeks suffering from Meningitis, was thrilled about the idea: Thank God my daughter is getting better, but having had a teddy bear comrade in the past three weeks would have been ideal. She has been going in and out of consciousness, and it wasnt always that her mother or I could be here. We have three other kids and live in the suburbs outside Paris, and its not really advisable to travel between Paris and home after nightfall. And if she was awake at night, there was no-one to look after her. With the Teddy Bear Trust, there could have been, Patrick finishes.

The Teddy Bear Trust expects to be able to hand out the first teddy bears before summer.

Nursery Rhymes For Kids

Nursery Rhymes For Kids

Rhymes play an important role in kids life. Kids rhymes are the very first thing that kids memorize in play schools or kindergarten classes. Nursery rhymes help kids to understand things and memorize better. Nursery rhymes are usually taught by enacting and this way through kids rhymes, their understanding capability can be enhanced. While other things might be difficult to remember, nursery rhymes are easily memorized by kids. This can be due to the rhyming words that memorizing becomes easy. Kids learn new words and pronunciation through rhymes. Rhymes learning is the step ahead towards poetry and prose learning in school. Some of the most popular rhymes for kids are: twinkle twinkle little star, humpty dumpty, baa baa black sheep, pushy cat, hickory dickory dock, jingle bells and many more. All these rhymes have been kids favorite from years. There are also nursery rhymes mp3 available for these rhymes in the market.

Learning nursery rhymes is now all the more easy. There are host of nursery rhymes mp3 cd, dvd available on popular rhymes. Your kids can thus learn and memorize rhymes at home through listening to mp3, cd and dvds. These options make rhymes learning all the more interesting and fun. Through cd and dvd, kids can visualize cartoon or animated characters enacting to nursery rhymes and thus it becomes easy for them to relate and thus memorize. Besides, there are wide collections of books available on nursery rhymes for kids that include all popular nursery rhymes. These collections of nursery rhymes books, mp3, cd and dvd are brought to you by various popular kids brands like Chota Bheem, Funskool, Playskool and more. You can go to any kids stationery items store and get nursery rhymes book or mp3 or dvd for your child and gift them a fun musical experience.

Now days, with the emergence of online shopping centers, shopping have become the more easy and fun. You can explore popular online kids stationery items store and shop the best nursery book or musical cd for your kid. Through online shopping you not just purchase things at your convenience but also get an opportunity to buy branded products at discounted prices. Online shopping offers heavy discounts on branded products. Thus, you choose to shop smartly and affordably through online. Also you can return any product when you are not satisfied with the quality. Visit online stores for kids and order the best nursery rhymes collection home. Now gift your child a fun rhyming experience from the comfort of your home!

Happy Parents Day

Happy Parents Day

Parents, who wouldnt know who they are, Parents are the loveliest, sweetest and most beautiful people of our lives. A person who loves her child the most a Mother and the strongest and hardworking man which helps us taking our first step a Father These two completes the worlds most beautiful relationship on the face of the earth known to be parents. Biologically speaking, without parents we cannot imagine coming to life and realistically speaking, without their presence we cannot imagine our survival.

When we were child our parents woke up all night to help us sleep, they work hard to bring us all the necessities of life. Our parents hold our fingers to help us walk. We brought up under the supervision of our parents, our parents help us grow into this rough world, and they help us being represent able person in this competitive world. They made us what we are now, they complete us. They complete the family and made us a part of it.

If we look our selves where do we rank us in giving back what our parents gave to us all their life? They ruin their resting nights for our rest, have we done it even single night when one of our parents were not feeling well, I am sure most of us would say no to it. Do we realize that our parents are equally responsible for success we have today? They helped us in every step we took in our childhood; do we help our parents to take few comforting steps when they need a supporting shoulder in last part of their life? We cannot give back our parents what they have been giving us all their lives, but if we try to help our parents for what they need, what they want and if we respect them and honoured them for what they have been to us, I am sure that will bring happiness to their faces and we will become favourite child of our parents.

Lets make promise with our selves to respect them, honour them, be kind to them and help them taking last steps before they leave us alone for rest of our lives. Take care of your parents before you spent your life regretting all your life. Wish happy parents day and bring happiness to their beautiful faces.

Abuse from people children know

Abuse from people children know

Abuse From People Children Know

Parents dont often think their friends or relatives could present any danger I would like parents to think about how they can/should assess their circle of friends when it comes to their children.

Statistics show that the majority of sexual molestation comes from people the family knows. Not a pretty thought but its true.

I have a friend of nearly 25 years who was widowed and after a few years began dating a man who I thought was funny, intelligent, witty, and they were obviously in love. They made plans to marry and go forward. One day my friend got a call at work from “Joe” that he had been arrested and could she come down to the jail. In shock, she left work and went to the jail; after she found out what the charges were she was nearly comatose. How could this be happening? Long story short, he had molested the neighborhood children, had a history of molesting his nieces and had also molested my friends granddaughters, and all were reluctant to tell.

Why didnt they tell? guilt, shame, blame, fear? Who knows, but children have to be reassured that when that happens its not their fault and they should tell. Childrens having healthy boundaries goes a long way to heading off abuse and the quick discovery of it should it happen.

People dont wear signs telling us what they are, so if someone acts improperly with your child its important that he/she knows that they should tell you immediately.

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Its important to answer any questions he/she might have and not be shy when talking about body parts we all have them so its not something that should come across as embarrassing because then your child will be reluctant to bring up the subject of inappropriate touching or fondling.

Adult Siblings Caring For Elderly Parents

Adult Siblings Caring For Elderly Parents

For adult siblings who find themselves caring for their elderly parents, whether as hands on caregivers or by finding the proper outside medical team, having these positions can cause a lot of stress and conflict. Brothers and sisters might have different ideas about how to care for mom or dad and might not have the patience or the skills for compromise or proper communication among themselves. There might be one particular sibling who acts as a leader but can push their ideas too strongly onto their siblings. Another cause of conflict is when one sibling feels like they are providing most or all of the care and feel resentment towards the siblings they feel are not doing their fair share. This sibling is usually the one who lives closest to the elderly parents.

Sometimes being put into the position of caregiver can bring up many years of arguments and hurt feelings. In some families, mom or dad might have had a favorite child, and the other siblings might still resent that child and believe they should take on the bulk of the parental care.

Other topics that can induce stress onto families include:

1.Illness family members might have to make decisions about long term care or treatments for illness or disease

2.Finances adult siblings might have to provide some financial assistance to their parents, which can be very uncomfortable if the siblings have different financial situations themselves (i.e. the rich sibling will be expected to pay more)

3.Inheritances on the flip side, wealthy families might have to contend with inheritance issues including prior knowledge of uneven distributions from the will or estate.

Even adult siblings who have good relationships with each other should be prepared for added stress when caring for their elderly parents. One of the best ways to deal with this stress is to address issues as they arise and not let any resentment or tension build into a boiling point. Outside counseling or guidance from a social worker can help ease these tensions and make the whole family, including mom and dad, happy.

Custom Kids Pajamas Its All So Much Cheaper And Simpler Now

Custom Kids Pajamas Its All So Much Cheaper And Simpler Now

Getting ready for bed can be a fun time for your child if you help to make it that way. Custom kids pajamas can be just one thing that can make your child’s bed time so much more fun, which means more time for yourself in the evenings. So does this mean that you have to shell out a bunch of money to have them made or spend endless hours sewing them yourself?

Affordable Online Sources

Hardly, because now there are any number of affordable online sources for custom clothing including kids pajamas. So how does it work? Will your kids pajamas be truly custom, meaning that you helped to create the design yourself, or will you have to choose from a selection of already created, so called custom pajamas?

Buy Just One Pair If You Like

Thanks to new digital printing technology, you can have any design, name, or words that you want printed on your kids custom pajamas or any clothing for that matter. Also, unlike older style silk screening, you don’t have to buy a bunch of them in your order. In fact, you can even have just one pair created and they will still be affordable.

Your Exact Design

So, come up with any design that you like and then contact any one of the online sources that specialize in kids custom clothing. They will take the image that you provide for them and scan it directly in to their digital textile printers memory. Then from there, the image and or words that you provided is printed directly onto the kids clothing item that you ordered.

More Savings

Its so quick and easy that your kids custom pajamas can often be heading for you in the mail the same day that you sent them your design! Also, because online sources always beat local retail establishment prices, you will save on the cost of the pajamas that get printed on. This means that in the end, your custom kids pajamas won’t cost you much more then a a pair of standard kids pajamas from a local retail establishment.